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I think that these things are all things we as gay people must face when deciding to come out. I'm not going to lie to you...it can be a difficult life if you let all those things you mention get to you. Be strong in your beliefs and strong in yourself, realizing that your ultimate happiness will come when you are able to fully accept who you are and be able to share this with the others you love. It's never easy for people to hear this kind of news, but be smart about who you decide to tell, as not everyone has to know...the people you are close and personal with in everyday life are the ones that aren't going to care either way. If they do end up making an issue of it, then as hard as it may be, let them go as they will be no good for you. Your family will hopefully come around, and in the end respect and love you even more for having shared this and being honest about who you really are. As far as finding like minded ladies...don't worry...there is a funny way of how this ends up happening, and also when you are up for it, start socializing in the gay community...there's lots of love waiting there for you! I wish the best and hope all the wonderful things in life find there way to you...its all there for the taking, sharing and loving. D